People like the woman at the head of the Disciples of Christ denomination will browbeat you into thinking that the RFRA encourages Christians to spurn sinners, the very people Jesus spent His time with while on earth, instead of helping them. (We'll set aside the irony of this argument from liberal Christians, who do not even consider homosexuals to be engaging in sin…)
No faithful Christian is suggesting that we ought to avoid associating with sinners, or even decline to serve them. That's the wrong question. We are to be friends of sinners. The question is not one of whether or not we are to love sinners. The question is, What qualifies as participating in and promoting ungodliness?
Do not participate in the unfruitful deeds of darkness, but instead even expose them; for it is disgraceful even to speak of the things which are done by them in secret. But all things become visible when they are exposed by the light, for everything that becomes visible is light. For this reason it says,
And arise from the dead,
And Christ will shine on you.”
Therefore be careful how you walk, not as unwise men but as wise, making the most of your time, because the days are evil. So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. (Ephesians 5:11–17)
1. Is A Same-Sex Marriage an Unfruitful Deed of Darkness?
Second, is it a deed of darkness?
Even though they knew God, they did not honor Him as God or give thanks, but they became futile in their speculations, and their foolish heart was darkened.…For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error. (Romans 1:21, 26–27)
2. What Qualifies As Participation in a Same-Sex Wedding?
What about baking a cake? Selling matching dresses to the groomsmaids, or renting tuxedos to the bridesmen? Renting chairs? Selling a car that will be used for the sending off? Is it the exclusivity of the service you're offering to the ceremony itself which makes it participation? For example, the wedding cake is exclusively for celebrating the event itself; but jewelry for the ceremony extends in its usefulness beyond the deed of darkness.
There is a point where the chosen course of action becomes a matter of one's own conscience. There are matters of religious practice where believers are permitted to differ:
Now accept the one who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgment on his opinions. One person has faith that he may eat all things, but he who is weak eats vegetables only. The one who eats is not to regard with contempt the one who does not eat, and the one who does not eat is not to judge the one who eats, for God has accepted him.
…each one of us will give an account of himself to God.
…The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and whatever is not from faith is sin.
Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof.
Undoubtedly there is a way for someone to hatefully and spitefully turn away a homosexual seeking aids for their unfruitful ceremony without showing them God's love or truth. But there is just as surely a way for someone to give "hearty approval to those practice those things which are not proper" (Romans 1:32, 28).
On the other hand, a Christian could be faithful in either course of action. He could faithfully offer services, giving a testimony of the truth and calling his customers to faith and repentance. A Christian could also faithfully decline to participate in a sinful ceremony and in the process call his customers to repent of their sins and trust in Jesus for forgiveness.
The question really comes down to this: Is a Christian permitted to live as a Christian in public? Sure we know anyone can have any opinion they want in their heads, but do our laws really provide for the "free exercise" of one's religion? Or must the believer gag his Christian witness for the sake of a false peace which ensures the damnation of lost souls?
Jesus dined with sinners, and he loved them. He wasn't even afraid of false accusations directed toward Him because of the company He kept. But he never engaged in or approved of sin. The most heinous sinners He loved with this parting word: "Go. From now on sin no more" (John 8:11).
Trust me, we're not far away from these loving words being labeled as discriminatory hate speech, and a condemnable criminal offense.